AWAY FROM NEGATIVE FEELINGS

Everyday before going out of my place I always hope of good and positive vibes outside. Though I know things are unpredictable outside my comfort zone,the only way to avoid such disappointment is to remind myself of the imperfection of this world. That not everyone has the same values as others, when confronted in an awkward situation the effective way that I did base on my experience is lowering yourself and not fighting back, humility is still a virtue.

But of course you cannot always avoid such annoyance everyday, as it could happen everywhere. In your way to work, at your workplace, at home, and from different agency and people , client we encounter daily.Honestly speaking, I could not recall anymore how many times I lose temper on the hassle, my phone service provider has caused me, I screamed, freak out ,raised voice and question their quality of service through customer representative, but at the end of the conversation  I felt loser as I let myself be consumed by my feelings, because I wanted to get the service I believe I deserve.Not a  great move, so changing my way of relying my message of disappointment in a cool and calm way was better than nagging. Life is more peaceful and wonderful after all those realization. Nobody is perfect, as they say but realization and teaching yourself to be responsible enough on dealing with our own emotion could lead stress away. 

PRE OCCUPIED

It's been two days now since I started browsing the site where I could watched my latest hooked up on tv. where I found myself all eye this Korean soap, Dong Yi. The series is aired  every night on local channel though it aired late night I still am looking forward of it every night. What is funny about is that when my sister found out of my latest craze, and also experienced watching the series she looked for sites that would advance her on chapters.Maybe the reason why, is that aside from airing it late , it is also packed with commercials. 

Since my sister shared me the site where I can watched the series with English subtitles, my addiction begun. I started browsing Friday night up to this time.Yet until now I still am not finished yet with it, my problem is that the loading is so slow. I wanted to stop it but every time I would, it is like there is something in me that keeps on wanting it more. So I end up waiting for the chapter to load till its through. Just this very moment I promised to look for dvd of that series so I can watched it without interruption. Now I come up with these conclusion about my interests and hobbies, that no matter how discouraging the situation I still find ways to go through it, even it means sacrificing allotted time for some other activity than needs proper resolution between myself indulgence.

STOP AND REST

Today's technology allows us to work 24/7. We can bring our work home or take it on vacation. We work except for interruption like when electricity goes off. During the typhoon, more people was interrupted from their work and can't do something inside their houses, leaving people unable to accomplish anything that required electricity. Can you imagine how important work for is ?, without it some people may feel unimportant, unproductive, and useless. But thanks be to God as he doesn't want work to be that important to us. and so we don't need a power outage to get us to stop. In the Old Testament, God had plan for getting His people to stop and pay attention to Him. It was called Sabbath. Practicing a day of rest can keep us from the belief that our work is more important than God.

WOMEN LIE THE BEST

Women lie the best and that's the truth. I am still in denial mode while sharing this statement that I read in the book that I am currently reading , about gestures and body language.

Here's what I have read: In Why Men Lie & Women Cry (Orion) we showed how women are better at reading emotions, and therefore better at manipulating others with an appropriate lie.This trait is seen in baby girls who cry in sympathy with other babies and can then cause other babies to cry simply bursting into tears at will. Sanjida O'Connell PhD, author of Mindreading, conducted five -month study into how we lie and also concluded that women are far better liars than men. She found that women tell more complicated lies than men, whereas men tell simple lies such as ' I missed the bus' or 'My mobile phone battery was flat, that's why I couldn't call'. She also found that attractive people are more believed than unattractive ones, explaining why leaders such as John F. Kennedy and Bill Clinton were able to get away with as much as they did.

Yay!

MY SO LAME EXCUSE

I texted my friends whom my buddies in church that I cannot come this morning in church. I told them I am to visit my parents this morning which is why I can't make it today. But honestly, I'm guilty because I know this day is for God, I owe it to Him,but what I am reasoning today is making me guilty,Oh, my God!. I have to  make up with Him, talk to Him in my secret place , ask forgiveness for the lapses and sins I am continuously entertaining and embracing over and over again. Despite the fact that it is a sin and would not please Him. I feel like I'm no different with those hypocrite out there.Our pastors word keeps on reminding me, the ones he said " you cry when praise and worship and say you love God, but when you go outside the congregation, your back in your lifestyle again, nothing change". Then the congregation would filled with laughter. Very true, I was thinking why we manage to laugh those fact.

WHAT ARE YOU IN THESE 3 BEHAVIOR?

I was cleaning my closet, when I saw this notebook of mine which I have kept all my notes from the seminars and trainings I have attended last year.Let me share this insight of which you may find yourself, what are you from among the three characters I'm about to list here, try to assess yourself from the signs.

There are three ungodly triangle character we have to recognized, and lets reflect if we fall from these characters.

PERSECUTOR- you are said to be a persecutor if you are bully, you pick a fight (you initiate a fight.A tyrants, they know how to intimidate and they control people by intimidation.They are insensitive, they don't think others need, they can have an explosive personality, they work to destroy other people.They are fault finder. They invade others privacy but do not let others come into their lives.Outwardly they appear to be confident and secure, privately they are insecure and fearful. Do you fall on these category? then if yes, you are a persecutor.

VICTIMS - they suffer in silence. They pretend everything is fine. They deny any form of powers or strength from their inner being. They need someone strong and powerful all the time.They fear failures, they fear success.they ofetn fell dishonored. They do not honor themselves.They always feel like they have been persecuted all the time. They always feel they are being taken advantage of. They put others need above their own needs.They expect others to make them happy, they look for persecutor and they are good at finding one.  (these kind of character is not good because they use self pity or anger to controls others, and to get attention or care. )

RESCUER - They are saviors, they are busy fixing victims. They avoid fixing their own problems. They are comfortable in a support position. They are knight in shining armor. They keep victims attached to them. They train others to be victim, they feel responsible for vixtims behaviour but they do not take responsibility of their own issue. They focus on other's feelings until they have no grip on their own feelings.They cannot operate without the victim. They become jealous if the victim develops other relationships. (Rescuer feel as though their value comes from fulfilling the needs of others.)

As for me, though its hard to admit,I am a mixed of three said behavior. There are times that I fall on being a persecutor, I do feel also at times that I am a victim and a rescuer, which at times I don't know anymore to handle my own feelings because I am so busy fixing others issue.